by David Johnson

This treatise isn’t really common. Most people know what to do before sex and during sex but what they should do after sex is still bleak. Sex can be appealing and great but what you do after penetration and orgasm matters too as it sets you anticipating the next sexual events. It also gives your partner some sort of impression about the kind of person you are. For instance, your partner may think you are dirty if you refuse to shower after sex.


This article is detailed on the exact things you should do immediately after having sex:


Wash yourself


shower sex

Proper hygiene is quite important. As we all know sex can be a messy business. There’s nothing more ignoble than not offering to clean the sex-related goo from your partner’s body and immediate surroundings. Your co-sexer may like the thought of luxuriating in a marinade of your own making and decline your offer but a semen-in-the-eye scenario will have to be dealt with stat and, for that reason, it’s a solid idea to have some cleanup accouterments close at hand.


Take a pee


You might have to empty your bladder too. This is a common practice among women. You’ll have no doubt noticed that many women make a point of using the bathroom soon after sex is over and it’s often because they want to lessen the likelihood of getting a urinary tract infection or UTI. It’s less common for a guy to get a UTI, partly because men’s urethras are longer and more distant from our butts.  If you’re using the pull-out method, peeing between rounds of sex is going to make the likelihood of sperm finding its way out easily not possible.


Connect emotionally


Cuddling can be a part of connecting with your partner emotionally after sex but there are plenty of other things you can do to keep the good vibes rolling long after the main event has come to an end. You can look into each other’s eyes, synchronize your breathing, make out like teenagers, or express your feelings toward her. “It’s especially important to stay physically and emotionally present with a woman after sex,” says Fox. “Women have made themselves vulnerable to you simply by having sex. Staying connected makes her feel safe and secure.”




A common complaint among women that we spoke with is that many men will roll over after sex and not want to cuddle. Maybe the person you’re having sex with doesn’t want to cuddle either but it’s a good idea to make yourself available if she does. “After experiencing the endorphin rush of an orgasm, you’ll experience a release in oxytocin, the ‘bonding’ chemical,” explains Lilla. “Take advantage of it by cuddling, bonding, and feeling even closer to your partner.”


Clean your toys


Sex toys can be awesome and can take the pleasure you and your partner share to a whole new level. Things can go awry with sex toys if you don’t pay attention to the care instructions that come with them. Research has shown tenacious microbes’ ability to cling to sex toy surfaces, so you’ll be wanting to clean them—but take note of the manufacturer’s recommendations, as they’re all different. A fleshlight, for instance, only requires a water rinse, whereas butt plugs may need to be boiled. Soap and water may suffice for some products while others come with specific cleaning fluid. “You want to make sure to kill all of the bacteria on them and wash off all of the lube so you can put them away,” says Lilla. “Plus, if you clean them right away, they’ll be ready to go next time!” And seeing as sex toys are an essential part of a few key positions in The 60 Sex Positions Every Couple Needs to Try, this is a measure you should take.


Tidy up by gathering used condoms and wrappers


If you’re using condoms be a mensch and pick up the used ones—and don’t forget the wrappers—and dispose of them properly: in other words, don’t flush them! “This is respectful and demonstrates that you feel equally responsible for what you do together, ” says Deborah Fox, MSW, Certified Sex Therapist. “You don’t want to be that guy who expects the woman to do the housekeeping and you just sit back and relax. This will pay dividends in goodwill.”


Refuel with food  


enjoying a meal together

Ever noticed that food tastes better after you work out? For many people, this is doubly true for sex. A keener appetite is just one reason to pig out after sex, as opposed to before. Feeling heavy, bloated, and possibly gassy after a heavy meal is an antithesis of sexy. Exert some calories, then refuel!


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